In my job I meet a lot of people in transition. Some could be expecting a new baby, some could be moving out of the country for a job, and some are trying to cope with family change or with divorce. All of these circumstances are challenging for different reasons, but they all have one thing in common – change.
Change can be scary or frightening for some and that is okay. My biggest fear is the unknown: How will things be in the future? How do I get from here to there? Will it be okay? Am I doing the right thing?! As for change, I used to have a hard time with it, too. Then one day I learned a wonderful secret: You don’t have know everything and you don’t have to have all the answers.
When the 2010 Olympics started I figured that since the real estate market was on hold, I would take advantage of the downtime to spend a week or two figuring out the social media fad. Once I got all signed up and tried getting myself on this …You-tweet-face… I soon realized that it was a lot harder than just talking about what I ate for breakfast that morning. So I talked to some people who know what they are doing with it. I still don’t know everything there is to know about social media, but I do know that I have good people in my corner so I don’t have to know everything. Things work a lot better because, I had help.
I have had the great fortune of working with some amazing people who deal with major challenges, such as, extreme limitations in mobility, living in a family circus, or racing against time. I love working with these people because I get to help with providing answers and can coach and aid them in reaching their end goal when they had no idea how they were going to get there.
Whether you are looking to become rich, fix your car, or buy a house there are always people that will know the answers you seek. Which brings me to my other secret which you may have figured out already…it is okay to ask for help. It shows a lot more strength to know when to ask for help than to be a fool and continue getting nowhere. So, just remember, when you have a problem or don’t know something, you likely already do know someone who has the answer, who can help, so you will be okay.
As the late John Lennon said “There are no problems, only solutions.”